Parents Of Gay Children孩子的父母是同志
You're Not Alone 你并不孤单

Hi, my name is Debbie and my husband and I are parents of gay children. 嘿,我的名字是我丈夫和我都是运算和同性恋子女的父母.

If you are a parent that has just found out your son or daughter is gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender and are now feeling shocked, unsure, isolated or many of the other emotions we parents feel when we first discover our childs sexual orientation or gender identity, ( that is different to ours ) then this site will be invaluable to you.如果你是一位家长刚刚发现你的儿子或女儿是同性恋,女同志,双性恋或变性现震惊,无法确知,许多其他孤立的或情绪的父母觉得当初我们发现我们的疾病治疗性倾向或性别认同(即不同的观点)那么,这个网站将宝贵你.

We as parents who are hetrosexual and have been brought up in a society with a low level of understanding of homosexuality ( whether because of society in general or perhaps of our religious upbringing ) often have a very hard time in coming to terms with news that our very couragous and honest children have given us.作为父母,我们已经长大hetrosexual社会低水平了解同性恋(是否因为社会普遍的宗教或者抚养)往往很难有时间来跟我们的消息,非常诚实couragous孩子给了我们.

Most of our children whether they are younger or older when they have come out to us have usually taken years to try and come to terms with their sexuality or gender.大部分的儿童无论是年轻或年长,当他们走出来向我们通常采取尝试来计算其性别或性倾向. Some have a very hard time with this process and some never really come to terms with it themselves.有的在这个过程中非常辛苦,有些从未真正来面对这个问题本身. Some find it easier not for you to know at all.有的不容易你知道的. But they all have seriously thought it through and have finally wanted to be honest to themselves and their loved ones by coming out.但他们都经过认真思考,终于要坦白自己和亲人的现身.

Unfortunatly when they come out to us ( intentionally or other wise ) we tend to go straight into that same closet they came out of.unfortunatly出来时,我们(故意或其他智慧)我们往往直去,同他们立柜出来. Now We have to come to terms with our childs sexuality or change of gender.现在我们来计算性与疾病治疗或改变性别.

Just remember we cannot change them, they are who they are as we are who we are and no one can change us or would we want them to.他们只记得我们不能改变,他们是谁,都因为我们是谁,我们谁也无法改变,我们还是要他们.

The first thing we, parents of gay children, have to do is acknowledge their sexuality and let them know that no matter what, that we love them.首先,家长对同性恋孩子不承认自己是有性行为,让他们都知道,无论如何,我们爱他们. Then we find support for ourselves, and in this I mean several things, it could be in reading material.然后我们找到支持自己,并在这几件事,我的意思是,它可以在读物. Read as much as you can because for most of us this is the first real interaction we have knowingly had with a gay or transgender person.你可以看到多达因为大多数人第一次真正的互动,这是我们明知有一个同性恋或变性人. There are many, many good books.有不少好书.

Talk to your child about their life and what it means to be gay or transgender.跟你的孩子生活如何什么是同性恋或变性. This is such a good way to really know your child and we all would want that as parents.这是一个好办法,大家都知道你的孩子会希望为人父母者. It is also a good way of finding out if your child is coping with life.这也是一个好方法,如果你的孩子是找出对付生活. This is where our unconditional love and support comes in to play.这就是我们的爱护和支持是无条件的发挥. This can be hard for some parents of gay children but it is neccessary so we can keep the lines of communication open.这可让有些孩子的家长,但同性恋是水权转让可以随时通讯线路开放.

Find out where the gay communities are, read their papers, go to restaurants etc in the gay community.找出同性恋社区,阅读文件,到餐馆等同志. This will make you realize that gay people are normal people like the rest of us.这会让你知道人们正常的同性恋人像我们一样. You are amongst gay people all the time but you just don’t know because they are just like us.你是同性恋人之间的一切,但你不知道,因为他们跟我们一样.

Find a support group like PFLAG ( parents and friends of lesbians and gays )and speak to other parents of gay children who are going through the same feelings as you.寻求支持团体一样pflag(父母、朋友、同志女同志),讲其他小朋友的家长同志的心情一样,经历你. I found this to be a wonderful source of help.我发现这是一个美妙的助力. Remember you are not alone.记住你并不孤单. You will not only be helped but you will in turn help other parents of gay children along the way.你不仅将有助于但是你可帮助其他同性恋者的父母子女一路

As a mother of 2 sons whom has had to come to terms with both my boys coming out at different stages I would like to share some informative material that will hopefully help you and other parents of gay children survive and enjoy the journey that you are now on.作为一个母亲,其中有2子与我来计算出在不同阶段的男孩我想和大家分享一些翔实的材料,可望帮助你的父母和其他儿童生存和同性恋,你现在享受的旅程.

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